Women and Power
Maureen Dowd has been excellent on this topic lately.
Rather than fall into the sexist trap of saying that we are not ready for a woman president, or accusing people who don't support Hillary Clinton of sexism, Dowd is giving Clinton exactly what she deserves. Solid opinion of her actions as a person that take into account that Clinton cannot and should not pass as a man.
Women are different than men. I have worked enough construction sites to know for certain that I do not think like a man and will never be perceived as one. But I have also worked in male-dominated fields to know that it doesn't really matter that I don't think like a man, and that I don't want to think like a man. That this does not impair me unless I don't admit it.
Being a woman surrounded by men and speaking a (in my case blue-collar and primarily symbolic) language of power has taught me a little about the nuances Clinton is facing. I empathize with her position and the choices she's been making. Last night's debate reminded me of my twenties and all the effort I wasted trying to get people to think that I am much taller, bigger, meaner and stronger than I actually am. I never found power there. I only ever found any power, any self-respect or any real voice to what I am doing when I accepted that I am a tiny blond thing with a pretty face and much more interest in grace than in heft.
The key to power is understanding that you already have it. Clinton simply doesn't get that. It's harder to see that fact when you're a woman, but it's still completely true. She's asking and proving herself, and she's changing herself to suit what she thinks people want to see and what she thinks she has to prove.
Which is too bad. At this point, I know that I don't trust Hillary Clinton, even though I really wanted to. I shouldn't trust her. She often demonstrates that she cares more about what other people think than her own principles. Is this shape-shifting a function of being truly diabolical or of simply being unsure?






